Why is staying connected important?

The day-to-day grind of caregiving can lead to feeling isolated. Being connected to others is what makes us human. We know we need others. The reality is that sometimes you may find that taking time for yourself, looking presentable is just too difficult after all the demands and daily responsibilities. I often wonder in the thick of my fatique, "who wants to spend time with me? " My conversations are limited by my day-to-day experiences. Probably not the top topics in a social situation. Pulling myself out of that self-sabotaging thinking I move on.

Caregivers often feel underappreciated, and this may sometimes be the reality. This kind of thinking can turn ugly with a capital "U'. Remember you are not only valuable with a capital "V" but, often you are the person who provides hope and dignity to those you care for. Your value cannot be overstated.

Denying yourself time with your friends, family and activities that you enjoy will deplete every fiber of your being.

I am sure you have heard that in order to care for others you need to care for yourself.

I can almost hear the collective groan! It certainly is easier said than done, isn't it?

Staying connected is a start. One way that I stay connected is to participate in a caregiver group. I actually run the group twice a month at the church I attend. People often tell me they don't know how I have time or energy. The truth is that this group of caregivers, currently all ladies have been such a blessing to me. They give me more than I can ever give them.

I have heard their stories which include their trials and the obstacles they have overcomed. In meeting with these wonderful ladies who have had a range of caregiver scenarios, I have found hope in despair, encouragement in frustration, love in self-doubt, rest in weariness and so much more.

There are so many ways to stay connected, so you don't drown in isolation. Below are a few that I and others have done.

Join a group or a league to get out once or twice a month.

A group that meets regularly helps with planning especially, if you need to find care for your loved one. If committing to a group is too overwhelming, set a regular "date" with a dear friend for lunch or an activity. If you prefer to be active, a trip to the gym, a game of pickleball, or perhaps a regular game at the bowling alley. Having something to look forward to regularly will lift your spirits and keep you connected.

Attend your place of worship.

Our church still broadcasts virtual church which makes it too easy not to leave the house.

Even though, virtual church keeps me connected it is not the same as actually being with another human being. Perhaps someone at the church can watch your loved one if they are unable to attend so you can have an unencumbered hour or two to yourself.

Most churches have a group of members who would be willing to help. Check with them to see what resources they may be able to provide. Remember, no one knows our needs unless we state them.

Invite a friend over.

Sometimes the easiest way to stay connected is to invite a friend over. It does not need to me anything fancy. Coffee, tea and some yummy goodies will lift the spirits of you and your friend.

There are so many ways to connect. It takes some creatively and sometimes money if you need to pay for a caregiver, but the cost is worth it when it comes to taking care of you.

Share in the comments how you have found ways to take care of yourself.

Looking forward to hearing from you...